Adapting Myself
Tortoises are slow but they won the race against the hare
TLDR: We have our drawbacks and we also have choices to deal with them or not
The story I wrote here is in response to my assignment at Generasi GIGIH 2.0 program. We live in a world with a lot of different things and in every moment of our lives we have to deal with it, whether we like them or not or in other words, we need to adapt. Most of the time, problems come from external sources, for instance, in our school, with our friends, or maybe just random things that suddenly came out to us. However, they are also can come from ourselves.
Being an introvert and a quiet person is challenging for me. The challenge I mean here is especially about talking to others. I don’t know if this is just me or there are any other persons there that feel what I felt. When I want to start a conversation, I am afraid the person I talk to, doesn’t wanna give a response and left me alone or “dikacangi”. Probably, for some people, it’s not a problem at all. You could just continue the monologue with the person or choose to walk away. However, for me, my mind start to battle around and thinking what I did I do wrong that I was abandoned (Gen Z says it, “overthinking”). This kind of mindset has struggling around inside my head for years. Until when I realized that I have a fixed mindset (Thanks to GIGIH for telling me about this).
There are a lot of articles out there that tell about what fixed and growth mindsets are and I will not going to explain that because I have no such capability to explain those things. For short, a fixed mindset is when you limit yourself and believe that people cannot be changed and otherwise growth mindset tells that we have control in our own lives and we’re sure that we can make it better for our life. A fixed mindset gives you static power while the growth one makes you dynamic.
So now, perhaps some of you wondering, what are the correlations between my problem, mindset, and the title of this story? Without a doubt, people always have problems in their life. Whether it’s big or small, long or short, we will have it in our life. We don’t have an option button in our life when we click it, our problems vanish immediately. What options we have are faced it or leave it. Leave or run away from a problem seems like a fun choice. No need to worry, think or handle it. But when we do this, there must be a question that comes in. Why do we run away from this problem? Is it because the problem is too hard? Or maybe because we are afraid of it? Realize or not by doing this, we have already become one of the fixed mindset people. And what I wanna do is move out from this kind of mindset to the other one, the growth.
We need to adapt ourselves to people’s responses in our everyday life. We can’t make every people like us, even a prophet still has haters. We can’t control what people do to us but we can control how we respond to them. I can’t decide whether the people I talked to will give a good response, bad response, or even don’t give a response at all and it’s not my fault. It’s their choice. What I need to do are just deal with it and keep doing a good thing. I know I am still scared of it, but I’ll still do it regardless of the responses. I have to grow my mindset with a confidence thing, reduce too much overthinking with something I can’t control, and believe in every problem there’s a solution.
P.S. Ya, ya, ya, I know there are many mistakes in the grammar or perhaps my story not well structured, so sorry for that.
Sources:
- The race [image]
because they grow their mindset to win it.
